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4 June 2018

my mojo's back!

I think we all experience this once in a while don't we? For a couple of months I’ve been experiencing what I can only describe a mid-century wobbly (I hit the big 5-0 next year) and the joys of the raging hormones that come as part of that particular package! At times I haven’t recognised myself…..I’ve always felt I’m a happy-go-lucky confident, optimistic, glass half full-type so it’s been a bit of a shocker to have experienced such a loss of confidence. At times I’ve felt tearful, anxious and completely overwhelmed by day to day things. I put on little weight, so I didn't feels happy in my clothes. I don’t think Instagram has helped to be honest as I’ve found myself comparing myself to others and I've been guilty of trying to keep up with the Jones’s. It got to the point that I felt I'd totally lost touch with why I started to do this in the first place. I’ve always loved sharing my everyday outfits. I’ve always enjoyed sharing my High Street finds…..I do so love a bargain! But I've felt like I've lost touch with the very things that gave me joy when I first started on this blogging journey. At the moment I’m very aware of all the ‘stuff’ I have accumulated and so I’m in the midst of a huge wardrobe cull, much of it being recycled via eBay. Many things I bought and loved last year just don’t feel me anymore so I’ve whittled my wardrobe down to a few favourites while I try and figure my style out again. I hope you’ll bear with me….I’d really love to hear from you if you’ve found yourself feeling the same. If you have any tips or remedies that have helped you through the menopausal collywobbles, please share! I’ve found opening up to friends about how I feel has really helped and it I thought if I could help just one person by writing this down…..well that would wonderful!

To get back in the saddle blog-wise I thought I'd share a few of the outfits that have been making me love my wardrobe again. If you follow me on Instagram you'll know I've been on holiday this past week. I made a couple of pre-holiday purchases......and thanks to a large branch of Zara in Puerto Del Carmen where we stayed in Lanzarote I had a few holiday treats as well!

This outfit was an absolute winner when I posed it on Instagram. I love the Topshop cami and will be scouring the High Street for similar. I adore the trousers, these were a holiday purchase and I've no doubt you'll be seeing these on repeat.




#ihavethisthingwithwhitedresses Yup....evidence of my obsession with cream/white dresses.......especially from Zara!







Dress, Zara past season 


Dress, Zara past season 

I have also developed a bit of a thing for Urban Outfitters this season!





And one last look......also a holiday purchase from Zara.



Just in case you want to see what I travelled in, I wore this jumpsuit. When I wasn't in my denim cut off's and a cami poolside I found this playsuit was brilliant for slipping off and on over a bikini.....I'm quite tempted to buy it in another colour for our next holiday in August.

So there you go.....one mojo restored. I hope to start regularly posting blog posts again regularly, please do let me know if there is anything in particular you'd like me to blog about.....it might be just the thing to cure the writer's block!

29 comments:

  1. I've not been in touch before, but have enjoyed your posts for a while now, I just wanted to say thank you so much for being so open and honest about how you feel. Very brave of you and I have no doubt there will lots of your readers who will also appreciate it. I know self esteem is not about looks, but I have to say you look totally fantastic! Looking forward to hearing from you more. Caroline X

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    1. So lovely to hear from you Caroline. I had actually drafted a blog post before I went on holiday but I still wasn't in quite the right headspace. I reckon a good old burst of vitamin gave me the last bit of momentum to put this out there! I can't tell you how good it feels to hear how much this resonates with so many women.....we do isolate ourselves a little when we are feeling out of sorts don't we?! Thank you so much for your lovely comment, it means the world to me xx

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  2. I know how you feel Michelle having hit the 50 mark over 2 years ago! Aargh! I am just now coming to terms with being over 50 and feel able to be open about my age, hence the name change to my Insta account. Ive found that exercise and eating healthily helps my mood and ability to sleep so would recommend both. Nothing too drastic or challenging though ;) keep being open and honest about your feelings too. You're doing great xxx

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    1. Oh wow Sue, you look incredible for 52....I just assumed we were the same age! I have wondered what to do about my blog/Insta handle.....to be honest I never thought I'd still be doing this by now. It's really helped to open up and talk and to write it down. A problem shared is a problem halved as they say.....it's been great to hear I'm not alone too! Thank you for your top tips and your lovely comment, I really appreciate it xx

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  3. I've just turned 48, so I can completely identify. Following a long weekend in Italy with my sisters and mum I am suffering a bit of a crisis of identity and have decided to take myself in hand a bit. I know ageing causes changes to my shape, but that doesn't detract from the fact that I've not been eating as well as I should and am doing something about it. Aside from an overwhelming desire for chocolate cake, it's not been as hard as I thought it would be and I feel better for it (and I'm sure the cake will creep back in, just in lesser quantities).
    Love your Zara white lacy dress and may just have to scour good old ebay for one. I think your mojo is well and truly back - you've looked super lately (even more than usual). Age ain't nothin' but a number!

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    1. Aww Marie....I reckon chocolate cake is a very reasonable cure for anything wobbly-related! I hear you though, I've had to cut back on the treats and I'm trying to cut out alcohol altogether as I have a feeling that's one of the worst offenders if you are having any kind of mood swings.....it's empty calories too when I'd rather have the chocolate cake!
      You are absolutely right in that age ain't nothing but a number.....sometimes we need to remember to be kind to ourselves and not beat ourselves up so much about stuff.
      I am so grateful for your lovely comment and compliments, it has really helped to hear that I'm not alone xx

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  4. Vicky Summ5/6/18 06:52

    I've been following you for a long time and thought you had been quiet. Sorry to hear about your wobble. I'm so glad you're back, I've been following many insta stylists and have to say I've totally loved your edit here. So nice to see something new! Your outfits look stylist, simple (and are affordable!), very inspirational, love the Urban Outfitters gear, and the playsuit - thank you - off to have an online browse!

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    1. Hi Vicky
      Thanks so much for getting in touch....it's lovely to hear you enjoy the blog and have found some inspiration here. That's exactly why I began to share, it's so good to hear that you are still finding it relevant too.....there are so many fabulous bloggers and Instagrammers I'm pinching myself as I am but a tiny fish in a massive ocean! Many thanks for your lovely comment, I really appreciate it xx

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  5. Flaming Lips5/6/18 08:28

    Interesting! Yours in one of the few blogs I follow because you do wear reaosnably priced clothes and wea them well. I had though considered unfollowing all my fashion blogs because as I approach 50 I have terrible middle age spread and the envy of people like you (who I didn't think did) was becoming difficult. IT's really hard not to beat yourself up. I eat better and less and I exercise more and I still don't look like I did even a couple of years ago and I find that really hard. I also feel tired all the time despite a healthier lifestyle and plenty of sleep! Tired makes me irrational and grumpy. Glad to hear you are feeling better. xx

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    1. Ahh, it's lovely to hear that you still enjoy the blog, that's such a lovely compliment, thank you. I have been totally overwhelmed by the amount of great advice that the lovely ladies here and on Instagram have messaged me. There is a lot of support of there so I am going to follow this blog post to share some of the advice as there are a lot of us feeling this way! It has helped me to share.....and hopefully this is just the starting point xx

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  6. That resonates with me so much - I hit 50 this year and I am really struggling with identity generally. I'm not brave enough to cull my wardrobe - I haven't quite let go of my past yet! But I feel inspired to carve out time for it now as I'm feeling the weight of it... I always enjoy the limited wardrobe a holiday brings ;) I did, handily I now realise, get the big M out of the way with an early one in my early 40s - my advice would be kind to yourself (and stay away form anyone who isn't kind to you!) and like everything else, this too will pass. Love the post and ordering the jumpsuit and playsuit for our three week camper van adventure to Italy this summer!

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    1. Lovely to hear from you Chloe. I would totally recommend that cull of your wardrobe to make way for the new you! We are about to go through our house and possessions too as we feel so bogged down by stuff! It really clear your headspace to have a good old purge. I am now armed with some fantastic advice with how to deal with the big M, I have found tons of support by sharing here. The connections you make are really the best part of it all! Thanks so much for your lovely message......and glad to hear you found some summer holiday outfit Inspo here as well! xx

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  7. I loved this post and your honesty Michelle. We've had many chats about the whole instagram world and the challenges of being there amongst all the perfection as you know! I just keep telling myself that is so important that relatable, realistic and honest accounts keep sharing their voices. As we age, it's even more important to be there showing how it's possible to be just as stylish in our 50's as we've ever been. And you do it SO well. I actually think you look the best you've ever looked. I didn't notice any weight gain on you at all...you're absolutely glowing and I'm loving the slight change in your style - you're inspiring me! Sending massive mojo hugs your way Michelle and keep doing what you do xx

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    1. Hey lovely, so good to hear from you! There are so many echos here of the things we discuss about Instagram and the way people portray their lives. That's why I felt it so very important to explain why I've been AWOL from the blog as things are not always as they seem. Something had to give and I found it hard to cobble together a caption for an Instagram post....never mind having to write a whole blog post! I had to remember what gave me the joy when I started along this path and that's what I'm grasping again now. You are so right.....I absolutely crave to see more relatable, realistic and honest accounts, that's what I always loved abut Avenue 57 in the early days, it was such a supportive place.
      Thanks for the lovely compliments Avril.....you do what you do perfectly too and you definitely post the kind of inspiration I seek out as there really are only a handful of accounts that I really relate to now. So thankful for all your support as always xx

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    2. Anonymous8/6/18 13:33

      I have to say that I follow both you and Avril and I completely agree with Avril's comments above. It is hugely important that us ordinary every-day women have someone who is relatable, realistic and honest. I'm not interested in blogs where the clothes are expensive and unattainable and the person has a completely unrealistic and perfect body. Who lives that lifestyle? I love your style and you've given me so much inspiration. I applaud you for being honest in this post and I hope you continue to do what you do. xx

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  8. I haven't posted before, Michelle, but I wanted to say how much (as a fashion-clueless person) your blogs have helped me. I relate totally to your peri-menopausal blip. I am 49 and am going through similar. My top perimenopausal tip if you have night sweats or insomnia is - have a standing fan on at night in your bedroom, blowing towards your feet. Sending you good vibes. You look amazing and I'm looking forward to "my fashionable 50s" next year! xx

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    1. Aww, thanks so much for your lovely comment! What a great tip too....I do indeed suffer with the night sweats and insomnia so I will setting up a fan tonight! Very grateful for all the amazing advice that keeps coming my way.....so glad I shared how I felt as it's so good to know I'm not alone xx

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  9. I am in my mid 50s i had a rough menopause but ladies i can report there is light after the dark. Your late 40's early 50's are areal struggle. The overwhelming emotion was crippling and my brain where did it go? I couldnt thuink or cope most of the time. The only way forward is to accept where you are. Your body and mental outlook changes. Talk to friends who understand. The otherside (even though i still get hot flushes is bloomin dam fine,Michelle you look great you make lovely choices for us ladies on affordable fashion and provide useful thought. For most of us there is a weight gain i did not welcome but you know you can control it and still look lovely. Good to have you back

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    1. Yes re: brain going - I am having terrible memory problems and brain fog. On bad days I am convinced I have dementia!
      and yes re: weight gain (2 stone and 2 dress sizes for me!)

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    2. Gosh Lorraine, so sorry to hear you had such a rough time with it, I am well aware that what I've experienced so far could be just the tip of the iceberg! Your attitude about it is great though, I think you've hit the nail on the head by saying you have to accept where you are....basically on the cusp of another life change and really it should be celebrated! Hopefully I will care less about what other people think about me......now that'll be worth raising a glass to!
      I am so happy and grateful to hear that I'm still making some good affordable style choices that ladies are still inspired by....that's good enough reason for me to carry on. Thank you for your lovely comment xx

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  10. Hi Michelle. Good to read this... good because getting it off your chest is good for you! All that you have written highlights all the more that you are human - like the rest of us and we’re in this together.
    Be kind to yourself... that’s the most important thing xx

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    1. Mwah Bean! I can't tell you how glad I am that I shared this! There really has been an incredible wave of practical and fantastic advice. That's the amazing thing about social media, the lovely connections we make and the support we receive from our lovely community! And yes to showing our human side.....Instagram doesn't always reflect real life does it xx

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  11. Anonymous5/6/18 19:51

    Hi Michelle .. amazing honest blog .. I can totally relate to everything you said .. I do not recognise myself . I am 49 and have a successful career but my confidence is on the floor . What is happening ? I hate it . I have always been positive upbeat and focused . I am also suffering anxiety for the first time ever. I am going to see a natural hrt doctor soon as I feel like I need to take some action . Exercise helps but this is overwhelming . Thanks for your openness x jo

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    1. Stayed tuned lovely.....I have received some fantastic advice which I will blog about and share, there really is so much support out there. I am going through the same feelings Jo, so I know exactly where you are coming from xx

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  12. Sending you a big hug Michelle! I don’t have a massive amount of advice but it’s great that you have opened up about what is still quite a taboo subject that all us women face at some point. I’ve heard that exercise can help & also some of the naturopathic remedies available. I also think as we face each new chapter of our lives (whether turning 30/40/50 etc it's completely normal & important to stop, reflect & re-evaluate. Hoping that you feel back on a more even keel soon....xx

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    1. Aww Sian, so lovely to hear from you. It really has helped to share and offload....it is a bit of a taboo subject isn't it! The hubby has no sympathy at all and has said I just need to get on with it....he is very old school but to be fair it was exactly what I needed to hear at that point. I can't keep moaning about it and now I have been propelled into taking action thanks to all the amazing advice I've received! I do feel better already as it's so true that a problem shared is a problem halved! Hope to catch up with you soon xx

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  13. Hi Michelle, sorry to hear you have not been feeling your confident self lately. I can completely relate. Hitting 48 this month. Not bothered about the age but am bothered about the lack of sleep, loss of confidence and at times, increased anxiety. Lots of exercise (tennis), sharing with friends, laughter and Vogel vitamins helping. I do check in with your blog regularly mainly as my confidence in what I am wearing (too old/too young clothes dilemma...) is in question and it really helps seeing your lovely posts and then I am encouraged (hubby delighted) to make sensible and lovely purchases. Keep sharing, and thank you. Jaq xxx

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  14. I'm 52 and have felt exactly like you have been feeling. Just remember that phrase from LORD OF THE RINGS and adapt it to your convenience, "This too shall pass", then turn it into a mantra Pre-menopause and menopause are like a second adolescence, your body is changing and that's why somedays you don't feel like yourself but just like when you were a teenager the anxiety, fear, confusion, etc. are temporary.

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  15. So glad you are back!! I think I got off fairly lightly with the menopause (apart from it starting at 42!) but I do still suffer with brain fog sometimes. I lost my mojo recently too, but I found it again by abandoning all attempts to embrace the 'new straight leg jeans' silhouette (I felt sooo frumpy) and treating myself to a new pair of Topshop Jamies! Shallow I know, but I felt like me again. Looking forward to more posts.

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